I’m 50 and my occupational therapist just ordered me a $571 (fully covered by healthcare benefits) side-sleeping shoulder freedom pillow. Am a very happy girl.
Idk man, I’m 35 and I just go to bed
At this point I’m considering a colostomy bag so I don’t have to go to the bathroom 5 times during the night
I sleep well as long as my wife is there. She can roll us from one side of the bed to the other or off it even and I’ll continue sleeping like a rock. The moment she’s sick or has trouble sleeping is when I also have trouble sleeping, which is fine with me.
I do sometimes miss being younger and sleeping any where, any time though.
That much melatonin will give you weird sweat nightmares. I just mention this because a lot of people think more mg = more sleep but at 10+ mg melatonin does real weird shit to your REM cycle. Most evidence shows that the optimal dose is often less than 1 mg. Just in case you’re curious.
Ooh boy just you wait til you realize you’re just napping in between having to wake up to piss 3 times in the night.
I stopped drinking fluids three hours before sleep and that’s helped. Just have to hydrate well early in the day.
Doesn’t work if i drink any alcoholic or sugary beverages.
After 40? Lmfao. People, just take the time to care for yourself. Eat balanced meals, don’t over eat, stop watching TV all the time and go for a walk.
Take it from someone nearing 50 who took gluttony to the max by 35. I feel better today, than I ever did in my younger adult years because I stopped being a typical american.
Above 40 and get roughly 3-4 hours after being in bed 9. Exercise daily (and have been since age 20), am at a healthy weight, eat (relatively) right. Been seeing specialists and trying a dizzying array of things for 9 years, but I’m pretty sure this is just me now. Sometimes you just get dealt a bad hand.
Which time do you exercise? I feel being tired really helps, so exercising in evening might help.
Morning for me, because actually exercise for me compensates for the lack of sleep, “wakes” me up. But thanks, I’ll try anything at this point.
If you live in a state where she can see you as a patient and time zones make sense, Meg Danforth at triangle cbt-i is by far the most capable sleep provider I have ever seen and specializes in treating insomnia, and I’ve seen a ton of sleep providers at this point (I have a circadian rhythm disorder but used to also have sleep onset insomnia). She may also be the best provider I’ve ever seen, in any speciality. Just looked up her new site (I used to see her through major hospital before she moved to her own private practice doing telehealth) and learned are only 150 cbti practitioners in the US certified by the board of behavioral sleep medicine, and she’s one of them. She’s also a grade A wonderful human.
Sending love, I hope you find a path to sleep that sucks less
This might be the most thoughtful and kindest reply I’ve received online. Thank you, I’ll definitely look into her.
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Take care my friend!
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Sleep issues suck ass, I’m sorry my friend. Sleep maintenance insomnia seems so much more challenging to treat than sleep onset insomnia
Thank you, sorry for you as well. I have no trouble getting to sleep, it’s staying asleep that’s the issue. Seems to ultimately stump everyone.
Amateur! Wait till you hit 65. I’m slowly becoming Darth Vader. Machines to make me breathe, eyes that can’t see, ears that can’t hear and teeth that shatter on the softest food. Luckily they haven’t started replacing any of the inside bits… yet.
PS: this is just the short list of stuff.
At some point in my 40s I started doing that medieval “first sleep” and “second sleep” thing where my eyes just blast wide awake at 2am. I don’t have to pee, I’m not uncomfortable, I just wake up. I read, take the dog out, brush my teeth again… After awhile I go back to sleep and wake up at the normal time.
I guess it is kind of nice to do a patrol around and make sure everything is cool, and the dog loves it. It’s just kind of weird.
I think my neighbours are like this
I recently learned (while staying up late trying to shoot a rat in my backyard) that they go to bed around 8-10 pm, then are up for an hour or so sometime around 1-2am, and it is fairly consistent
44 and I get 7+ hours almost every night using very few accessories (memory foam mattress and pillow) as well as few doobies before bed. Chef’s kiss
Me: in my 50s. Latex mattress and lovely pillow, and I get 6 hours of shite sleep if I’m lucky. Mostly it’s a few hours of sleep, an hour or so of being awake, a few more hours of tossing and turning in semi sleep.
(Though I do probably have some form of undiagnosed ADHD. My brain refuses to turn off)My wife: same mattress with slightly different pillows. 9 hours of snoring like a dragon sleep easily…and I then have to wake her a few times in the morning or she’d sleep until noon.
It’s just the hand I was dealt.








