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Don’t be crap. This means you.
I don’t get it
I think it’s pretty simple. In any given situation, don’t be crap. This means you.
Emotional and ready to quit your job/break up with someone/confront someone?
Write down what you want to say/write. WRITE IT ALL DOWN.
Wait 24 hours. Read it again.
Do you still think you should send it? Then send it.
80% of the time my issue was stupid and my reaction inappropriate, but because I kept my mouth shut, all I had to do was tear up a piece of paper.
Thanks dad. That’s served me well.
Also, even if you are making the right descision in breaking things off, often the more you say the more ammo/pain you are giving to the other party. Most of the time, the “wait 24h” trick makes you realize you are saying too much.
Admitting a mistake is NOT the same as admitting weakness or stupidity.
When admitting to a mistake be sure to address how you plan to fix it. Especially if it’s a mistake at work.
Depends on the culture:
in empiricist/objective science-culture, that’s true, but in authority-based cultures, … that won’t work.
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Only break one law at a time.
Thank you pops. It probably did keep me from fucking my life up (worse).
My father put it a slightly different way:
If you’re going to do something dumb, be smart about it
I knew an older guy that would always tell me, “Be good. If you can’t be good be careful”. He also phrased the OP statement as, “One crime at a time”.
Never make fun of someone’s job. No matter how “beneath you” it is, somebody has to do it, and we should all appreciate that they do it.
What about looksmaxing influencers? I can make fun of their job right?
That’s not a job.
I think the jury is still out on whether or not that’s a job, so I think it’s allowed for now.
My brother keeps bringing up parking wardens and no matter how I’m trying to put myself in their (employer’s) shoes, I’m unable to convince him.
No, your brothers right. Fuck those assholes.
Hey, there’s always exceptions to the rule. 🤷🏻♂️
Everyone’s got a job, so they can feed themselves at least
Also, they don’t make the rules, they just implement them. They’re not the cause, just the symptom. Go for the cause.
Ah, the old “I was only following orders” excuse.
You can’t accept an immoral job, and then just dismiss the immorality by saying “I was only doing my job.”
Comparing parking enforcement to nazis is crazy.
It’s all about the Slippery Slope. It’s a short, fast trip, all on the same slope.
Don’t Panic
Might not ever be the best piece of advice, but it’s always the second best piece of advice in any situation
This is a good piece of advice for hitchhiking around the galaxy
Always know where your towel is.
Did you sketch that frood, Triumph? Now there’s a hoopy frood, who really knows where their towel is!
Back in college, we made a party punch that we called Pan Galactic Gargle Blasters, and you’d be able to drink maybe one red solo cup worth.
Your job is not your family. You owe them nothing. Do your job well and leave the work at the door when you leave at the end of the day. Unless you’re an owner, every bit of extra work you do is you being robbed.
Lately i talked to a lot of elderly people or people who just retired because work. They don’t know each other, they don’t even live close to each other, but the thing they have in common is the need to talk to me about young people who don’t want to work anymore. Telling me stories that “young people” just leave work when their shift is over, not caring about the company at all.
Ask them if their employer paid for their retirement (pension). Ask if they were repeatedly laid off because the work can be done [poorly] cheaper in another country. Ask if they were union.
Many companies used to be loyal to their employees and vice versa. That is all but gone now and the companies cry that nobody is loyal.
Having just been made redundant this week after 15 years this is so true.
I managed it very well, very rarely having committed more than my allotted hours each week but I know for many they would have to have been very disciplined to achieve this.
I leave with no malice or ill feeling as a result. I’d hate to think how I’d feel otherwise
They’re upset the McDonald’s employee isn’t the happiest person ever, catering to their every whim. Thats really it. They want us to be little happy bootlickers who work our asses off for nothing.
I complain about young people too but this isnt why. Dont work shitty jobs for shitty pay. If you must work a shitty job, they better fuckng pay up. Isnt that the whole “invisible hand” capitalists love so much? If you can’t find workers , you’re either an asshole, or not paying enough.
Agreed but this can be difficult to parse when you’re union organizer
Or you work for the olive garden.
This was specific to calculus homework but it has turned out to be very good advice, “when you don’t know what to do, do something”. Often decisions can be paralyzing or problems can feel insurmountable but doing nothing is a choice. Very rarely is it the best one.
Me: this seems like sound reasoning, I should follow it and be more decisive
My ADHD:
Instructions unclear—(noun) (adjective) (preposition) (noun).
(em dash) (em dash) (em dash)
Yeah. I see a lot of people get stuck on problems where they get free iterations because they try a couple of things, get stuck, and require others to come up with more ideas.
Analysis paralysis is real. And it’s funny, I joke that I made a lot of poor decisions as a kid, I was impulsive, did what came to mind, but it all led me to a pretty good life, and so I’m all about just do it and deal with it.
I am not sure that’s a good in idea, but I’ll reassess from my deathbed.
The three least heard words in the universe will serve you well, and often catch people off guard - don’t be afraid to use them.
“I was wrong.”
Admit your mistakes when they happen, then when something goes wrong no one will accuse you.
It’s also not hard to do casually without having to grovel. My nursing subspecialty is violence management and I frequently respond to things with,“thank you for reminding me, I’m going to go do that now!” and,“I hadn’t realized that was your preference, thank you for letting me know!” or,“that’s a good thing to point out I’m glad you’re being an active participant in your care!” You don’t even have to say you’re wrong half the time you can also just regularly tell people they’re right.
definitely some layers to this advice for sure, situation and relationship matters!
If you’re in a group and talking about someone who isn’t there, imagine they are. That way, you’ll never say something you might regret later.
Ask yourself the three things before you say anything.
- Does this need to be said?
- Does this need to be said by me?
- Does this need to be said by me now?
Craig Ferguson
This has been helpful for me in meetings since I have a tendency to talk more than I probably should.
Never compare yourself to others but only to yourself from the past.
Be grateful for what you have.
“Shut the fuck up.”
Never talk to cops. Wait for a lawyer.
When I got my first car my grandmother told me “don’t do anything to it that makes it stand out to the police.”
If you have to whine or criticize something make sure to have a way to make it better. If you bring up a problem, bring up the solution with you.
I really hate this advice.
You don’t necessarily need to bring a solution.
The solution may come in many ways but the most important thing is bring the problem to the light so everybody become aware.
If you’re not satisfied with something whine and criticize the hell out of it. If you’re right others will show up and together we may find a solution.
Sometimes you feel something is wrong but not necessarily know how it can be fixed, but you know it’s wrong.
Don’t hold yourself from complaining just because you don’t have a solution, bring whatever you feel to discussion.
A shit solution can absolutely be worse than the initial problem, for sure.
Good advice
I get rather annoyed when someone says “I have a problem” without any further thought shown toward it.
Sure, you don’t need to always have the solution, but if you have something worth complaining about then it’s something worth putting at least a little time and effort into thinking about solving before complaining. That reflection will often come through in how the problem gets put forward such that it’s easier for everyone to help find a solution.
This is great advice. I’ve heard it refined to “bring the energy to be part of the solution” - which clarifies that one doesn’t have to have all the answers, but had better be willing to engage with solving whatever one complains about.
When I managed a team, my one big rule was to always have them try to offer something constructive to a problem, rather than them come tell me there was a problem and hope I fix it.
I would quote the Simpsons, “We’ve tried nothing and we’re out of ideas” (I never said this condescendingly)
Eventually they would come up with quick ideas and share them. And regardless if they were right or not, I would encourage them to go further and try out their idea without solving it for them. This built so much confidence in the team, they did amazing work.
Bringing the energy to be part of the solution (you don’t need to SOLVE it) really can bring a team together
