Hey, what’s everyones dating experience?
I went on a few dates but never had any luck. I noticed most girls basically want the guy to be downtown, have a fairly good job and among other things.
After reading self-made man, I kinda get the feeling the author is not wrong. Woman tend to put men on probation, even unfairly.
Take a look at how many woman are murdered by there partners. Take a look at how many woman experience sexual harassment or worse often at a very young age.
I think it’s pretty reasonable for a woman to put a man „on probation“ until he „probates“ himself.
None of this is your fault. But it’s also not the fault of the woman your dating.
And to be honest: everyone should take a very good look at a potential partner and be sure who this person is, that you try to spend (at least a significant part of) your life with.
So that’s a pretty big escalation and isn’t what she was discussing. Did you read her book? She was referring to when a woman gets hurt emotionally or whatever, she will take that experience and apply that to all men. Then basically the man is morally corrupt by default until proven otherwise.
Like… when men lie, cheat, harass, or are abusive? How could you say that’s not relevant!? 81% of women will experience sexually harassment and/or assault in their lifetime. So yeah, I think it’s natural and reasonable for them to protect themselves, including emotionally, until we’ve proven ourselves…
Yeah there are bad people, and you need to protect yourself. But I’m just pointing out what she wrote in her book. It’s still unfair to treat all men like criminals when there are good people out there. I believe you can attract the right partner by treating them with a better attitude.