This question is inspired by my father. He is a retired Westerner living in Southeast Asia who is dating two sisters; they are obviously with him for the money, and he outright admits it. Personally, I could never find fulfillment in that kind of arrangement, but I’m curious about how others feel.
He’s retired, meaning older.
He’s had other relationships, and doesn’t want/need that anymore.
I’ve talked to a LOT of older folks (big family, think 50-80) and it’s common for them to say “I can’t imagine getting married again”. Not that marriage was a mistake, just they lack effort and energy required for that kind of commitment anymore.
For me its more like meeting someone who likes almost all the exact same music/movies/games I do, with few exceptions, and who gets all my meme jokes and likes to do the same fun activities too. And their family isnt full of pshychopaths .
It’d be likely impossible for me to find another person like that.