No one owes anyone a chance, but one should take chances. This is Dating 101. If someone rejects me over some petty issue like this, they’re going to reject me later for something equally petty. And dating gets hard as we age and take on baggage from past relationships. I only drew the line at MAGA, racism, shit like that. Hell, my wife still attributes some of my thoughts and actions as if I’m her ex.
And who says he was thoughtless? Maybe he found the idea cute and wanted to fly it by her? He’s likely not in a social group that hates AI like we do here. Had a date propose we meet at the antique/thrift mall. One could take that as she’s poor or cheap or whatever. Her reasoning when we met? “People on first dates shouldn’t spend money on each other until they catch a vibe.” (My words, hers were better but I forget.)
tl;dr: Too much room to misinterpret someone when you first meet, especially before a first date. If they seem attractive enough in the ways you seek, give them a chance. You owe it to yourself, not them.
Well aware! I was dating hot and heavy at 49-52, been there, done that. But we should be aware that our aging assumptions and baggage can hold us back. Take a chance or die alone, whatever floats one’s boat, that’s their call.
No one owes anyone a chance, but one should take chances. This is Dating 101. If someone rejects me over some petty issue like this, they’re going to reject me later for something equally petty. And dating gets hard as we age and take on baggage from past relationships. I only drew the line at MAGA, racism, shit like that. Hell, my wife still attributes some of my thoughts and actions as if I’m her ex.
And who says he was thoughtless? Maybe he found the idea cute and wanted to fly it by her? He’s likely not in a social group that hates AI like we do here. Had a date propose we meet at the antique/thrift mall. One could take that as she’s poor or cheap or whatever. Her reasoning when we met? “People on first dates shouldn’t spend money on each other until they catch a vibe.” (My words, hers were better but I forget.)
tl;dr: Too much room to misinterpret someone when you first meet, especially before a first date. If they seem attractive enough in the ways you seek, give them a chance. You owe it to yourself, not them.
I’ll just say that dating changes as you age
It sure does, and you come with lots of baggage. I’m quite sure her closet has just as many skeletons as mine does.
Well aware! I was dating hot and heavy at 49-52, been there, done that. But we should be aware that our aging assumptions and baggage can hold us back. Take a chance or die alone, whatever floats one’s boat, that’s their call.
What ever floats your boat is absolutely correct, this man did not float this ladies boat so she nipped it in the bud.
And I’d argue it was the likely the best case scenario for both of them (making a couple assumptions)