The song game. I feel like a lot of people have come up with it naturally.

One person plays a song. The next person has to then play a song with some sort of connection to it. Like, you could follow the velvet underground’s “Sunday Morning” with Nirvana’s “Lithium” because it has the line “Sunday morning is every day for all I care”. Any connection is valid so long as the group accepts it, but I prefer lyrical ones myself.

That’s it. You go around until you lose interest.

I like it as a way to share music, because to do well you typically have to actually listen with their song.

Someone from my high school died in a car crash. I wasn’t close to them. People were sad about it, but aside from their name being read at graduation there wasn’t much done about it.

I will continue to avoid McDonald’s. Not going to break a no-meat streak for a shitty burger.

I wonder if this was caused in part by assholes pushing onto the train before people could get off.

Woman friend 1 said that it’s personal and for some people it’s a big deal, and not for others. Sex is unique in a lot of ways. She didn’t outright reject the karaoke comparison, but did emphasize that different people have different experiences and attach different meaning to it. She didn’t reject the comparison, but didn’t especially love it. Treating sex as meaningless has its own perils, she said n

Woman friend 2 reached for “like doing LSD or mushrooms for the first time” rather than karaoke, but didn’t reject the comparison.

Both reject purity culture and the idea of virginity as something you lose, and rejected your take from your top post.

I’m not going to post screenshots because the conversations had a lot of personal details.

You’re doing a bad job of arguing. You made a claim. I offered a trivial counter. You’re not updating your claim. You’re just saying “nuh-uh”.

You could try arguing that the degree is different, but as someone said that’s not true for everyone. Some people are really casual about sex! From the start! And some people would never, ever, do karaoke.

Even if you were factually correct (you are not) your argument is structurally unsound.

I’ll see what my friends say in the morning

Seems like it has been compared just fine!

Similar in that they can both be, your words, “intense, intimiate and potentially painful and overwhelming.”.

I’m going to argue that the “normal” point of view that holds losing your virginity as a big fucking deal (pun intended) is in fact unhealthy. It’s often bundled up with patriarchy. It really doesn’t need to have all the brouhaha. That creates a lot of misery and hangups.

You’re not proving that it should be a special case. You’re just acting like it’s self evident.

Incidentally,

You need it to be with someone who cares about you so they can make it a good experience

Also applies to karaoke.

So I don’t believe you when you say

It’s not some victorian-purity BS,

So? Why should sex be special cased?

Clearly not because

it’s your first time doing something very intense, intimiate and potentially painful and overwhelming.

because then we’d have karaoke virginity too. And many other things.

Virginity is special because it’s your first time doing something very intense, intimiate and potentially painful and overwhelming.

Why doesn’t karaoke get the same special category?

You need it to be with someone who cares about you so they can make it a good experience

Nah. Can help. Can hurt. Not a requirement.

Every one of those right wing complainers are among the worst people on earth.

They never seem to complain about rich people who just live off investments and inherited wealth.

Just spent 10 minutes fooling around with fluxer via the web ui. Was able to invite a dice bot, but couldn’t get it to respond. (Also it’s very D&D-specific, but that’s a separate complaint)

Looks so much like Discord

Nice comic. Link to source doesn’t work for me.

Suburbs are the worst of several choices. The density is a big factor in what makes cities appealing.

Anyone who has those needs to go straight to therapy and community service.

Retire. Don’t like my job. Tech is circling the drain.

Other people posted some details but essentially if you’re not an idiot you can park that in safe investments and live a happy life.

I get so frustrated when I read about people who like win a few million, blow it on like stupid cars and houses, and end up poor again. Just don’t do that.

My understanding is a lot of the rich assholes with the power to do something about this view these deaths as desirable.

I would only intentionally live somewhere with good mass transit. I don’t want to own a car. I don’t want to feel like owning a car is playing on hard mode.

That’s a big factor in why I’m in New York City. There’s good transit that runs 24/7.

There’s also places to go. Things to do. Saw like five bands play this summer. If a band is going on tour they’ll almost certainly play here. There’s beaches. There’s parks. You can take the train and hike up a mountain.

Some stuff is expensive but there’s deals. My favorite bar has $5 beers. My favorite grocer has $1 fruit. My friend lives in a house with a bunch of fellow queer weirdos and pays like $1k rent for their room.

I’m not really involved but there’s a lot of queer content here, too. My friend really found their people and filled a void they didn’t realize they had when they lived in suburban Midwest.

I’m pretty happy in New York City. But I’d probably go to somewhere in Europe if I had to leave. Or maybe Montreal. I’d want to do some research and visit before picking a long term home though.

I visited recently and had so much poutine. Everyone was super friendly. Great time.