Not like ideologically, but personally. I wanna hear about your beef

  • gigastasio@sh.itjust.works
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    My ex wife.

    I am a domestic abuse survivor. For almost 15 years I was subjected to all manner of verbal, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. Like most domestic violence victims I had difficulty breaking away, for the usual reasons that I’m not going to get into. I eventually had a psychotic break, which she used to portray herself as the hero and the victim in the family, effectively destroying my reputation and many of my relationships with my friends and family.

    I’ve since built a new life that I’m pretty darn happy with, but if I were to ever see her in person again, I would attack her without hesitation. When she dies, I hope she is in agony, terrified, and alone.

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      Hey there. I had just over 10 years together with mine.

      She OD’d, alone. It was satisfying TBH. I know that runs in the face of accepted modern morality, but it was satisfying.

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        Completely different reason, but I felt that same satisfaction when my dad died of a painful stomach cancer. Shit head abandoned his wife and kids for his affair partner and her 4 kids. He did a bunch of stupid shit because he was a stupid shit. I was sad for my aunts because they lost their brother, but his death has made me closer to them so that’s a win 🤷‍♀️

        Otherwise, it was so satisfying knowing that he died in pain without his own children or hers there. I don’t feel guilty for feeling that and neither should you 💚

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          The abusive thing that I grew up around may or may not be dead, haven’t spoken to her in 20yrs. But the history of cancer on the women’s side took all her grandmother, all her aunts, and my grandma, so there’s a strong chance she’ll rot and die without family. And while she’ll undoubtedly continue to bemoan her victimhood and abandonment to the end, won’t change that she’s driven her children away. I can totally understand your satisfaction.