It may not be your business what he does to his family, but it is your business who you choose to associate with. And if you choose to continue to associate with someone who is abusing their child (and if you want to argue that neglect is not child abuse, you can just fuck entirely off because you’re fucking wrong), that’s on you homie.

I’d love for someone to talk shit at me for bringing my partner instead of my wife to something.

They’d get told to eat shit from 3 different people lol

I had moved away a few years and my mother was homeless due to her own choices and lack of effort to do anything. My wife and I were in town visiting her family, and we decided to take my mother out to dinner. During the meal she was (rightly) complaining about the perils of being homeless and having to watch out for the pigs. I suggested that she look into getting into some government housing. You know her response?

“I don’t want to be the light in he dark.”

If you’re as confused as I pretended I was, she means she didn’t want to live with/around black people. Which was really fucking surprising to me, considering we had lived with, around, and had been friends with all kinds of POC growing up (as you you tend to do in poor and mixed neighborhoods and when you have to rent out rooms to get by). That level of racism was rather surprising, but she had become toxic as fuck in the years before I moved, so it shouldn’t have been.