Oh pointy birds

Oh pointy pointy

Anoint my head

Anointy nointy

-Steve Martin

Whether or not other artists deserve more attention is kind of beside the point. The point is that people are complicated and multifaceted and both good and bad things can come out of a person. None of us are all one thing.

Clearly JK created something that was loved around the world, but clearly she also doesn’t know how to coexist and empathize beyond her prejudices. The bad thing didn’t erase the good thing from existence, but it certainly complicates our relationship with it.

Some people, not anyways men, have been taught, rather mercilessly, that they have to be self sufficient. These people get aggravated, even angry when someone else fails to live up to the standard that they (unfairly) were forced to. There can be an instinctive feeling that it is somehow an injustice to them.

That doesn’t excuse abandoning someone in the wilderness. Often these people struggle to learn to be a kind helper.

Also, none of this is meant to excuse the behavior. It is possible to understand “why” without condoning it. When confronting this it is important to be firm that it is unacceptable, as well as understanding that it may be a struggle to relearn.