I am 60. And that is important because it changes what kind of surgery is available to you. I had Lasik surgery at the end of March. For me, because of my age, I had the full refractive lens exchange. That means they inserted a new lens into my eyeball after removing the original one. Prior to the surgery, I wore trifocals. That means I had correction for reading, for mid range and for driving. I now have 2020 vision. And I can read the little itty-bitty print at the bottom of the card. Oh yes, I also have/had an astigmatism.

From my discussions with the doctors, I believe if you are under 40 they recommend a simple Lasik surgery. And if you were over 40, they recommend the type of surgery I had. I believe the caution that the clinics give with regards to possibly needing some sort of glasses afterwards is standard.

For me, the surgery has changed almost every aspect of my life. I can wake up and see without searching for my glasses. I can go swimming without fear of touching someone inappropriately. I can work at a computer easily. I can watch TV and read simultaneously.

My advice is to go to a highly reputable clinic. This should not be a cheap surgery. If you are still on the fence, visit another clinic and get another opinion.

I hear you brother. My first thought was “isn’t that what everybody does?“

Start with something social - like volunteering for a specific event. There you will meet new people, but the commitment is short-lived. You can try to expand that friendship further on.

You can try picking a single class at a community college. For example, I took a writing class, which absolutely has interaction. Again it has a definitive start and end so that you don’t have to keep up with it.

Additionally, you might consider joining a workout class at a community center. It doesn’t have the full-time commitment of a gym, but it does allow you to meet some new people.

It looks like you kind of have analysis paralysis. Pick one thing, and try it. But understand that you may need to push yourself outside a comfort zone. And you really need to understand what it is you wish to obtain from it. Are you looking for mind activity? Or are you looking for a social environment? Or are you looking for a new hobby?

So what do I do? I now have some meerkats following me home.

I am sorry this has been your experience. You need to find better friends.

Okay. That actually helps me understand. Thanks

I suddenly feel inadequate and very confused. Does this mean double and triple negatives? Or something else?