Great, so after being gaslighted by society for years that all the ordinary social conventions I internalized earlier in life were actually some of the most heinous crimes imaginable
What fucking reality do you live in?
There is something so weird and off-putting when guys say shit like this.
Apparently a reality where literally everyone will insist on one thing to tell me I’m wrong, until I switch my position to be what all those people are telling me is correct, only for everyone to then continue to insist that I’m wrong and that the correct thing is exactly what I was saying originally.
If that’s not gaslighting, then I don’t know what is. And don’t tell me it’s not really happening because it’s happening right fucking now.
See, there you go implying that I would blatantly and severely violate someone’s consent. That’s the same hyperbolic strawman that everyone else seems to use whenever I point out the issue with inconsistent messaging and mixed signals.
I didn’t say “forcing yourself on someone who’s telling you no doesn’t violate consent.” I said “if you expect someone to magically know when you’re consenting without actually telling them, then you want them to be a mindreader; especially if you also insist that consent needs to be explicitly stated every time.”
Those seem like mutually exclusive expectations, so why am I being gaslit that both are valid and that I’m the problem for not intuiting a way past the fundamental inconsistency?
What fucking reality do you live in?
There is something so weird and off-putting when guys say shit like this.
You make us all look bad.
Apparently a reality where literally everyone will insist on one thing to tell me I’m wrong, until I switch my position to be what all those people are telling me is correct, only for everyone to then continue to insist that I’m wrong and that the correct thing is exactly what I was saying originally.
If that’s not gaslighting, then I don’t know what is. And don’t tell me it’s not really happening because it’s happening right fucking now.
Then I suppose this is the end of the discussion.
I guess good luck not accidentally being a rapist? Or whatever?
See, there you go implying that I would blatantly and severely violate someone’s consent. That’s the same hyperbolic strawman that everyone else seems to use whenever I point out the issue with inconsistent messaging and mixed signals.
I didn’t say “forcing yourself on someone who’s telling you no doesn’t violate consent.” I said “if you expect someone to magically know when you’re consenting without actually telling them, then you want them to be a mindreader; especially if you also insist that consent needs to be explicitly stated every time.”
Those seem like mutually exclusive expectations, so why am I being gaslit that both are valid and that I’m the problem for not intuiting a way past the fundamental inconsistency?