Have you solved it yet?

Forgive me if this is a stupid question, but isn’t that why neurodivergences are generally considered along a spectrum? As in, it’s possible to be mildly autistic or mildly ADHD, and therefore still pretty functional - or it’s possible to be profoundly autistic or profoundly ADHD, and therefore probably low-functioning - or anywhere in between?

Just because you suffer more, you have no right to deny others the relief that comes with the realization that you are not stupid/slow/disorganized/not intelligent enough to plan/etc. you don’t have any insight into the lives of others, and pretending is a skill learned early in our society.

Yes, there are people who just happily collect labels and like to wear them. But they don’t take anything away from you. They don’t go to a doctor and take your appointment slot. They don’t eat all your medication.

Suffering is not a competition. Compassion is not a zero-sum-game. everybody wins if there is more of it.

This is nothing new, people have been saying this shit since before the internet became a household thing. (I organise all my movies alphabetically, I’m soooo OCD!) It’s just the vernacular that changes.

Every culture thinks they invented the plastic bag full of plastic bags idea too.

We’re getting to the stage where normal everyday traits are being attributed to neurological dingleberries.

Umm, ok. My dingleberries are between me and my doctor, thank you very much.

This is a great example of how “cringe” is just shitty people not liking something and trying to bully you into not liking and/or doing it

Cringe is such a linguispicy word.

One of the more common traits used to identify autism in children is organizing things into a line. This doesn’t mean that many non-autistic won’t do that thing, but it will be used when contextualized along with a larger body of behaviour.

“this one behaviour is prominent in autism.” can be true without implying that “only autistic people do this.”

But the general populace is so uninformed that they will get mad at autistic people for relating with each other in ways that often reassemble common autistic behaviours.

You will even have undiagnosed autistic people getting mad at diagnosed autistic people because “well i do that all the time.”

There’s a lot of general ignorance that should be dealt with before everyone starts witchhunting.

Also the common traits have a bias for behaviours found in middle class white boys, due to local relevant bias issues. So things like obsessing about trains, or something a parent would recognize their child doing, like making a neat orderly line.

These type of memes make things salient to those who haven’t considered before. Like one of my friends who inquired after relating to a lot of autistic socializing, not just one meme, but after inquiring they found they were diagnosed as a child and just never told, because it would apparently be too cruel to know you are autistic.

So you have autistic people just trying to relate to each other, and a bunch of undiagnosed or non autistic people getting mad at them for visibly existing in a way that doesn’t make sense unless you have a deep personal relationship with autistic behaviours, because “normal people do that too”

Similar to how people will enter autistic spaces, say autistic people are cringe and fake for self regulatory stimming behaviours, and get applauded by their ignorant audience who interprets it as “fake disorders cringe.” But you know, it’s better if autistic people have to worry about getting bullied so that they hide their traits like stimming, and then have a meltdown because the world feels like it’s exploding and there is no help, and pavlov says you will be punished if you stim. Fun fact, the people responsible for gay conversion therapy are also responsible for Pavlovian conditioning being the primary choice on how to ‘fix’ autistic people. This makes sense of you are familiar with complex group behaviours and surprisal reactions, but boils down to “if I don’t see it, it doesn’t exist, and we are going to ignore the rate of autistic suicide.” and any autistic people who don’t mask are socially okay to builly I guess.

But criticising people on the internet for overly relating to literal diagnostic criteria feels good, because “but I do this thing too” and “I am become justice” in a social environment that doesn’t know what autism is.

This is all the justification some people need to feel socially confirmed to just actively attack general autistic groups and their behaviours, because they are indistinguishable from people who “just want attention.”

And bullying an autistic person out of trying to socialize is obviously worth it, as long as we catch one of the fakers “stimming for attention” and totally not trying to embrace aspects of themselves that have been critiqued as “inappropriate ways of being.” from a life spent around non autistic people who need you to know you are existing wrong, because surprising elements take energy to deal with, and if you are autistic there is a decent chance the world doesn’t let you forget how weird you are.

We should promote active education rather than bullying and witchhunting maybe.

Actually a good general option for dealing with mass ignorance, including people who jump to diagnostic conclusions based on one single meme. I thought autistic people were the “binary thinkers” (this trait conveys nothing meaningful without a robust understanding of what is being directly referred to. Everyone should think of how much they’ve mapped the area being communicated, and I’d say that’s more important for bullies than supposed copycats who want to be perceived as the thing everyone is bullying.)

Also even if you are not autistic, it is okay to relate to things that autistic people heavily socialize a relation to. Different autistic communities are going to have different cultures around that too. Etc etc.

It’s not, some people just want to believe they are special.

Op organized by value not size?