What I mean is, how do you deal with the logical conclusion that no one can ever truly be relied on and that you can always find yourself alone with no support?

Or do you disagree with this conclusion and think that some people can be relied on and that you can know that you won’t end up alone?

And if you are alone, how do you deal with the inherent human yearn for others when you know that you can never truly rely on them?

Edit: To clarify, I am talking about personal relationships and not about professional or paid help.

  • fizzle@quokk.auEnglish
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    10 days ago

    Tough one. I think the answer depends on what it means to be alone and what loneliness is.

    In my 20s I had lots of friends I could call up and hang out with any night of the week, but I felt lonely because I didn’t have a partner.

    Now in my 40s I have a partner and 2 kids who are very dependent toddlers and I feel lonely because I feel like I care for them all so much but there’s no one to care for me.

    I guess loneliness is the feeling of wanting to share a specific thing and being unable to. With toddlers you realise there’s an inverse feeling in that every moment of every day must be shared and sometimes it would be nice to be alone.

    Like all feelings, if you try to embrace it and really feel it, rather than pushing it away, the feeling can quickly dissipate rather than consuming you.