Ok then: why does one have to be a loud asshole to be an artist?

If it’s about Separating the artist from the art:

There are plenty of non asshole artists. Celebrate them.

Now take that concept and apply this to the rest of your life.

Stop overlooking the good that decent people are doing around you. They deserve your energy. Not just the loudest, most toxic attention grabbing assholes.

Only assholes blindly support assholes. So you can also stop being an asshole who only supports assholes at any time. Now even. Now is a good time.