25+ yr Java/JS dev
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  • I couldn’t call either a favorite, but there are two that have stuck with me my whole life. Edit to fix formatting.

    The Second Coming — W. B. Yeats (1919)

    Turning and turning in the widening gyre
    The falcon cannot hear the falconer;
    Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold;
    Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
    The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere
    The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
    The best lack all conviction, while the worst
    Are full of passionate intensity.

    Surely some revelation is at hand;
    Surely the Second Coming is at hand.
    The Second Coming! Hardly are those words out
    When a vast image out of Spiritus Mundi
    Troubles my sight: somewhere in sands of the desert
    A shape with lion body and the head of a man,
    A gaze blank and pitiless as the sun,
    Is moving its slow thighs, while all about it
    Reel shadows of the indignant desert birds.

    The darkness drops again; but now I know
    That twenty centuries of stony sleep
    Were vexed to nightmare by a rocking cradle,
    And what rough beast, its hour come round at last,
    Slouches towards Bethlehem to be born?

    It feels as relevant to our time as it was for WW1.


    Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night — Dylan Thomas

    Do not go gentle into that good night,
    Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

    Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
    Because their words had forked no lightning they
    Do not go gentle into that good night.

    Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
    Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

    Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
    And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
    Do not go gentle into that good night.

    Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
    Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

    And you, my father, there on the sad height,
    Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
    Do not go gentle into that good night.

    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.


  • People have inherent worth. What do you think t need to do, or be, or accomplish to be worthy of love? Because I will tell you almost none of it is necessary beyond being a good partner. My wife, in some ways is a better person than I could ever be — and in some ways not.

    If you communicate, compromise and are attentive, industrious, and honest I would hazard a guess that you will find someone eventually because just those qualities make someone a good partner — if you can do that, someone out there is looking for someone like you right now, because they’ve been burned by people without those traits.

    Then the real trick is to find someone who is worthy of you in return. They should be the kind of person who wants to be part of your dreams and goals, and you should want to be part of theirs. And they should have the qualities of a good partner as well.



  • I’ve lived my entire life with imposter syndrome. Any time I get remotely comfortable in a position I either get laid off or promoted. Being laid off confirms my fears. Being promoted makes me feel like I have to work even harder to hide my fundamental inability to execute my role. I have recently taken a higher position at a startup which is a whole new level of stress and responsibility.

    I can step back objectively and see the respect others grant me. I can see how my humble talents contribute. But I never stop questioning if it’s even possible I am contributing enough value to justify my wage, and it doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m one tiny mistake away from being fired.

    This isn’t a battle thrust upon me or with dire consequences. But it’s the battle I am comfortable sharing.








  • Lemmy is a place to follow and discuss ideas. Bluesky is a place to follow and discuss people (and their ideas). I’m not into celebrity culture, but there are folks I’m interested in following. People share more of their experiences and writings, so I follow other developers who might say something interesting or teach me a new perspective.

    I prefer Lemmy, but I have run for Bluesky because neither has an algorithm or notification counters to try to Skinner box me into starting online and engaged all the time. I do drive bys, scanning for rounds that interest me and dropping a joke or hot take or the occasional sincere comment. Then I move on and do something else for 2-20 hours.




  • Do you use Voyager? Or perhaps another client? Nothing about the user profile is surfaced in Voyager. You have to go to the native webview and open a user’s profile to see all that. I set a brief bio there, but until it’s exposed in my primary client I don’t really see any reason to worry about all that.

    I do sometimes check on nsfw boards so can flag users as OF creators vs. amateurs because I have more appreciation for folks doing that for fun than as a hustle. Other than that, it’s too much hassle to go checking everyone’s profile when maybe 10% of people set anything at all.